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How to maintain boundaries

How to maintain boundaries
I guess the thing that works for me is taking the mindset that Sex is just sex. It's an animal instinct humans have just like any other animals. There's nothing spiritual or meaningful about it unless you make it that way yourself. Animals do this all the time but don't start developing feelings for each other. Does that bull in the paddock just stick with one cow? No, he goes around and humps the lot of them just like the farmer intends him to do. That bull doesn't gain feelings for any one cow. Humans just like to make out they're something special. (being a little tongue-n-cheek here, not meaning to sound like a sexist prick. :p)

It's religion I think that has tried to make it this sacred thing. Oh, it's something you should only do with someone you love. I've heard the odd person going on about how sex is like this special connection and it's why you should only ever be in a committed relationship. Nah. Bull shit. Proven by the fact SWers can have sex with hundreds of men and still maintain a professional boundary.

Some of my most beautiful sexual experiences have been with working girls yet I can still walk away afterwards fine with the fact I may never see that woman again.

I'll admit there are times when I'm with a SW who's really good and really intimate and I'll get that strong pull like I have these feelings for her. It just enhances it for me. But once done, I'm back to "Thanks! I really enjoyed myself. You were great!. Maybe I'll book you again some time." And leave, maybe feeling like my minds been blown but not feeling like there's some kind of romantic connection there. You've gotta be realistic.

Anyway, I'm waffling.

Praise God for women that will have sex with you without insisting you have to marry them first! (actually don't praise God. He doesn't get to take the credit for a great service from a SWer)
 
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Spent a fair whack of my life chasing the same girl I was never gonna get anywhere with before I started punting so it's left me very cautious about taking any steps towards things I see could lead to emotional attachment towards others including SW'ers.

Will say there have definitely been a few that I've seen as having been someone I would happy consider a relationship with and that I've got reasonably close with in comparison but I've always taken the "she's out of my league and I'm not gonna be the guy that tries to hit on a SW'er" approach.

I will say some of the FS girls I have met have been someone of the most down to earth realistic people and I'd be absolutely more than happy to date one if the right girl at the right time, etc.

Would say I look at punting as a means of getting to spend time with a variety of girls I otherwise wouldn't, but I also think I play things a bit cautious and avoid things I see as risky behavior like booking longer times (money also a factor) and avoiding anything not strictly a sexual encounter like dinners, etc as a paid encounter.

Not sure if that made any sense so I'll break it down to the word compartmentalization.
 
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When I was a younger guy many of my real life relationships were actually lust and not love and they would often peter out once the lust was satisfied. In some ways this is not different? I suppose in this case the big difference is its a clear commercial transaction between two parties. So fall in love for an hr and move on 😄
 
This is such an interesting thread. I have to find out your age @gwenkm9 ! I hope you're like 22 years old and I could just be like, bro, take it from uncle okaycool2, just keep banging along you'll move on quick!
 
I've been thinking of this thread for fair bit and reflecting on my own experience

Limerance is the word that's be used here.
I believe I suffered from this with one sexy lady. When you click soo well with a WG and the attraction is mutual.

How she relaxes her persona when she sees you at the door. How she mentions how well you treat her. How the pupils in her eyes dilate when you kiss her soft full lips. How her skin contrasts perfectly against your own. How soft and delicate her skin and hands are.

How gentle the kisses are and how she looks forward to kissing you and fucking you.

It took me a while to understand what's going on and even though it's brief it's real for me and I believe for her as well in that moment lol.

When our booking ended she would grab me and kiss me, god that girl loved my body.

Having a WG ask you to twirl so she can check out your body/outfit was a first for me. No other woman made me feel more wanted in that moment.

The sex was effortless, she would clutch my back and I would shiver, literally a skin orgasm (frisson) this happens mainly cause I shave my entire body.

Service soo good you return the next day or multiple times a week. The moment that made me realise I'm genuinely developing feelings was when was in the middle of humping in missionary she looked straight in my eyes and asked, "do you love me?". I lied and said "just a little bit not a lot" but in that moment in my head I was like I fucking love you and more lol. I proceeded to hump like a rabbit and she screamed "daddy!"

Damn I miss that Polynesian babe.

It's easy to catch feelings being professional and detaching them especially when it's mutual is hard. I've seen other WGs and it's not the same.

To conclude feelings happen we are human and we can move past those feelings. I would have wanted her to myself but that's a fantasy that can only end in tears.

Haven't seen her in a while as a detox, just focusing on other things and I realise I might be developing and ferocious sexual awakening that's not healthy.
 
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Dude Im in a crisis right now😂, I still question why she asked me that and her eyes were soft and dreamy. Legit felt like I was in heaven.

Even now I think about her it's soo hard to not book.

I need to consider my wallet and my own mental wellbeing.
 
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