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I have started a new thread for this topic so as not to derail yet another positive request or review thread.

I reference the post above as an example ⬆️...

First off, no-shows cost us huge amounts of wasted time and money! We turn down other appointments once your booking is confirmed. So when you don't turn up, we loose the other income from the serious clients we could have seen for that time-slot, as well as the obvious lost income from you not bothering to turn up or let us know.

Many of us independents do not work from our homes, which means we travel to our in-calls specifically to see you. This costs us money in either petrol & parking, Ubers, taxis or public transport. We get all ready, apply our make-up and do our hair, these products are very expensive. Then for some there is paying babysitters etc also. Not to mention the energy expenditure in that whole process.

So when you simply don't turn up and don't bother to let us know, it not only means we loose out on the income from the booking, but it actually costs us money. For some nasty creatures they are aware of all this and do this sort of thing on purpose over and over again to different ladies while getting some sick thrill out of it. These scumbags likely couldn't afford to see us anyway and feel like that is our fault so like to punish us for it.

For others legitimate 'stuff of life' things pop up that are unavoidable, but they don't think to simply send us a quick text to cancel. Often this is because sometimes even some men who use our services, struggle to see what we do as a real job, with real life consequences if they behave like this. Think of how it would effect you in your own jobs to travel across town to a meeting and the other person rudely doesn't turn up to with no communication. Especially if you turned down other potential deals in place of this one.

The poster went on to say that the escort told her friends what he did and they blocked him too. GOOD! They should! All of us should! This sort of behaviour is a pattern for some, and for most of us you will not get a second chance to waste our time and resources again. For me personally if someone no-shows me, if they try to book again (only if they are apologetic and admit the error in their ways) I will make them aware in order to re-book, they will have to pay a $50 no-show fee for wasting my time, and a $50 deposit to ensure it doesn't happen again. If I sense they are a serial no-shower they will indeed get the instant block straight away.

He then said he tried using different numbers to circumvent her screening. I can not stress strongly enough that this is absolutely not acceptable, creepy, major red-flag behaviour! The fact that he admitted it like it was totally normal and fine, shows how little respect he actually has for us and sees no problem in intentionally dishonouring our right to choose who we see in a disgusting and conniving manner.

I know there are loads of you who would never think to treat us this way, and you should be steaming mad at dudes like this, as they make it way harder for us to trust any of you, and are the precise reason why so many of us now require deposits across the board. This no-show BS is not remotely rare, it happens every single day up and down the country. Its become a freaken epidemic!

It really is not hard and takes 2 seconds to send a quick text if you need to cancel or re-schedule, we are human and understand that shit happens sometimes, it does for us too. Communicating can mean the difference in ruining someones day and causing them financial loss or not. If for what ever reason a provider does block you, you need to suck it up, accept it and move on, ask yourself what to did to deserve it, and don't repeat that same behaviour with anyone else. Learn from your mistakes and have some basic human decency.

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After being canceled on 9 minutes before a booking I made last week I can absolutely and positively say I have absolutely ZERO sympathy for you. It was a huge waste of my time and since I run a business myself I actually lost money as I wasted at least a couple of hours I took out of my busy work day to prepare for the booking and travel there any back. All of which I also had to make up later. And that is not the first time I have had sex workers cancel on me. I have also had bookings delayed multiple times which also wastes my time. So take your whinging elsewhere, the time wasting cuts both ways. In fact I am kind of shocked you have the audacity to complain about that shit here. Can you honestly say you have never canceled or delayed a booking?
 
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lol. i agree.

@AvaMILF has a bit to say for herself and getting smart to punters online could occassionaly result in the odd non serious booking i guess. i mean, all is fair in love and war right.

not that i would ever do that of course.

but as JP says, take your moaning elsewhere @AvaMILF, no one cares except the odd simp and a few other underutilised WGs.
 
I would also like to say there have been a couple of times where I made a booking with independent escorts and showed up at the location, and while parked on the street in my car, texted them I had arrived only to be ghosted. And ended up having to drive away after waiting 15 minutes for a txt which never came. I could name names but I wont. Ava doesn't care about anything like that though because she is a misandrist who believes sex workers can do no wrong.
 
I find generally the independent workers are the worst when it comes to cancellations and ghosting. The agencies tend to be better as they value their reputation more and want to keep you as a customer so at least they actually let you know the appointment is cancelled (even if it is last minute). They usually offer you another girl or choice of girls as well.
 
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Can get dangerous for late night punters like me. I remember one where I had pre booked at 10.30pm (texted to confirm and re confirm on the same day, received confirmed responses) and was completely ghosted. They gave me the building number and told me to text when at the front entrance to get the room number to go up. Completely ghosted and found myself on a dark CBD street getting eyed up by a bunch of shady dudes while having $1k+ cash in my pocket. Long walk back to the car with no closeby parking.

They texted me like 2 hours later and asked me if i wanted to make a booking (completely oblivious to ghosting me earlier) 😄
 
Oh weird, I wasn't aware that it was me personally that had done that to you or anyone else JP. Nor was I speaking directly to you, unless of course you personalised it for some reason, but I have no control over that. You are more than welcome to start a thread about the perils of providers actually cancelling or ghosting. In fact there are reviews here all the time about escorts doing such things. Never have I ever jumped on one of those threads and yelled 'SO! YOU GUYS DO THAT ALL THE TIME' or said or assumed that SW's can do no wrong. I have for sure met some nasty pieces of work in my time. Some VERY nasty, I just choose not to surround myself with those ones.

Is there some SF rule I wasn't aware of that says that it's only you guys that are allowed to address shitty behaviour? If so please enlighten me. You just seem to get so triggered every time you are reminded that I exist. How exhausting for you 😿. Maybe you should just DM me and let me know what your actual issue with me is to save yourself from popping a vein in your forehead every time I dare to speak.

@kennyt you need to find a new song to sing pet, this one got old ages ago. If you had actually done your research on me before dribbling your nonsense you would know, because I made no secret of it, and posted openly both on AF and twitter to my then 8K followers, that I have a severe spinal injury. And 3 years ago had Spinal Fusion Surgery that went badly wrong, where I hemorrhaged and very nearly died. I lost the use of one leg that it took me a long time to regain mobility in in rehab, I was off work for over 18months and Im left with permanent nerve damage and chronic pain. I still have to do rehab on a daily basis and will do for the rest of my life.

So this is the reason why I take limited bookings, because my health only allows me to do that. Otherwise I would still be touring all over the country constantly like I was prior to the surgery. It makes you look a bit silly sweets to keep yapping about us providers never getting booked, hence the reason we have time to post. You don't actually have the first clue what is going on for any one of us.
 
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Yea ive had those txts, just as i am pulling up to park. "Hey Hun, somethings come up i have to reschedule. X." Always just assume they are extending the booking with whoever went before me. I have a routine before a punt so all in all its couple hours of my time, and valuable pills wasted.
And the scramble to find another short notice, is almost always bad.
 
It's awesome to see that the main serious point to my post re assholes trying to trick us by using different numbers into booking with clients we have previously blocked for any number of reasons, including things that involve our safety is totally fine with you... Cool cool cool cool.

Good to know.
 
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We dont need another lecture from a WG. Its a hazard of publicly listing your phone number in a classified with your titties out using words like TSUNAMI SQUIRTER MILF. You are going to get some trolls. I dont think anyone is saying its right but IIWII.
Newsflash the time wasters are probably teenagers pranking you, not real punters. And calling yourself MILF is advertising to the age demographic that would probably troll you.
If your ad is garnering to many prank texts, maybe try a rebrand and target a better clientele. Mature companion rather than MILF?
 
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Thanks for the marketing advice Mr Rocker. The reason I use words like 'TSUNAMI SQUIRTER', is because I am in fact, a Tsunami Squirter. If you haven't seen it, there is a whole thread dedicated to it here that can attest to my skills in that department. Id be silly not to promote the thing that makes me money huh. I must have missed the memo that I should be reservedly attired in a turtle-neck with my G cups tucked demurely away for my SEX-WORKER advertising. I'll bare that in mind for my next shoot!

MILF happens to be the most highly searched term on porn-hub. So there is a specific reason why I use that descriptor over others. Most of my clientele book me specifically for my 'milfliness', the rest is the squirting, but more often than not a combo of the two. So they are not aspects of my marketing that i'll be changing any time soon, thanks for your concern though bud. Im sorry if the words cause you some upset or offence. If that is the case though perhaps you are on the wrong site, maybe you got lost on your way to 'Fun with potpourri or 'bible study with Betty'.

If you read my post properly you would have seen that I was actually not speaking about my own specific experience, though of course it has happened to me also, I was using a post re another escort as an example of what happens to most of us. Because some of us are capable of having strong feelings about things that do not only effect us personally. Its called empathy, some of you would do well to look it up.

Trolling, ghosting and no-shows is not just an 'Ava MILF' problem I promise. It happens to every single provider that I know, unless they have a deposits only policy which is a model many of us are moving to for that very reason.

And I assure you it is not all bored horny school boys, full grown 'men' pull this shit intentionally all the time. Unless you would like to find justifications for this behaviour in the advertising specifics of every single escort in the country and in fact around the world, because it does not only happy in NZ either! Turns out some men all around the world can be dicks. Before you clutch your pearls again though Pete... breath... I did not say ALL.

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Your reading skills are a bit of a worry Rocker dude, you clearly missed the bit were I said it has and does happen to me, I was merely using that post as an example because it included the added fuckery of trying to get around an escorts screening after being blocked. Are you saying that behaviour is ok?

According to ChatGPT the average age of porn hub users is 35‑37, so yeh, you know what they say about assumptions aye. Do you really think all guys that watch porn don't punt? :ROFLMAO: ummmm LOLLLL. If you cant see how ridiculous that sounds there is no point in discussing it.

So because some pieces of shit harassed street based workers in the 90's, that makes this behaviour now ok? Whats your point? Im sure it was a huge hilarious he he ha ha for those big tough packs of men. I know for a fact how those workers will have felt. The lack of insight is truely astounding.

Ive been squirting since I was 19, and know many other squirters in their 20s with no children, so your not making yourself look smart by trying to put me down about the functions of female bodies doll.

It sounds like your'e the one that needs to change your panty liner there Pete.
 
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Of course its shit when you get fucked around but it's not a problem exclusive to the sex industry it happens in all industries, I run a business and have to deal with time wasters that take up hours of my time every week at my cost of time, money, milage, turnover and operating costs.

Getting fucked around can also be common for clients when you make and confirm a booking, get showered up and make yourself presentable and clean, drive all the way in to town, find and pay for a carpark, go get some money out of the ATM and walk into your booking to find out someone else turned up 5 or 10 minutes before you and they now have your booking :angry::angry:

But having said all that I definitely agree it's not hard to txt back with a quick bit of made up bullshit that you're still stuck at work or something if you're not going to be turning up to your booking. The only time I never turn up is when they won't confirm an address with me so I take that as a no booking and no confirmation as they won't give me an address to turn up to, I've been fucked around too many times driving to a suburb or area to find I've gone into txt silence to sit around in my car in some random place to never hear back from them again 😫😫
 
Unfortunately in my opinion it’s a risk as part of the job. It might have been better to address the whole story to point out just one guy is ghosting but from the read of it, it sounds like you blame all of us for doing shit like that. SW does not know if the booking is going ahead until the client shows up. But like I said, it’s part of the many risks SW has to take. But it goes both ways, we have endless B&S to deal with, and it’s not just ok let’s move on, it takes time to rebook and make time for them, SW making us wait well after booking time was supposed to start. And in Johnnys case and like many others of us, they just don’t text to say “ hey I need to reschedule” It is our hard earned money and as a client I expect to get what I pay for. Coms is very important both ways. And if we get ghosted then it gets reported on here as a cautionary.
 
A lot of the guys here complain that AF was mean to them and wouldn't let be the assholes (online) that they want to be.
So they came to SF and turned the whole thing into how 'alpha' they in particular are, and how they alone are victims of everything while at the same time being the biggest swinging dick in the room.
They are illustrative of a certain demographic in our society that are pathetic loosers and hypocrites.
But @AvaMILF they can't be changed here because they get to be faceless so can't be confronted with what utter dickheads they really truly are.
So as my last ever post on SF before I sign off forever (because I'm sick of hearing these loosers bleeting on and on about how their situation is the worst), I support your initial post Ava.
So long to the interesting contributors, good riddance to the rest of you.
 
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