Actually, it doesn't have to be a dilemma. As I (and others) have said above, edging can be problematic, and can lead to me having difficulties nutting at all. However,
@Tighthead33 is referring to fingering, and in that case, or oral pleasuring, there is no issue with edging. So part of my strategy is to to as much pleasuring as I can before letting the girl start on me. If fact, I often find myself pushing her hand away from my cock when I'm doing oral or digital work, or just kissing, and telling her to slow down with the BJ, otherwise I can lose sensitivity through overuse.
Similarly, I've learned that it can sometimes be really pleasurable for both of us to do the penetrative sex slowly, starting with only just putting it in and gradually working it deeper. There's much less chance of me losing sensitivity and for me the finish can actually be more intense than when I'm pounding her...
Furthermore, it can also help wear-and-tear on my cock (and/or fingers), if I can encourage her to help herself out if she seems close to cumming during sex. In fact, that can be super enjoyable for me (and her...): "Yes baby, fuck yourself, cum for me..."
im too impatient to edge myself waiting for them to get close during the sesh, i’ll just aim for it when im on my 2nd shot or if im a really horny bastard on the day then the 3rd & 4th shot
