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I have been on the fence about starting punting for a couple months now. I’m also still quite young.

I’d like to think I have good self control to not get addicted and also not get affected so emotionally entering this.

I was wondering what the general consensus is when it comes to most punters here. Do many get either addicted or negatively/positively affected emotionally long term? I remember when I was younger my father said a lot of guys get into seeing escorts and ruin their life in his words.

I saw that a few here have a specific bank account and budget dedicated to punting.

Would appreciate anyone’s thoughts on this topic along with any advice.
 
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Here's some basic guidelines which might help, though every guy is a bit different, as is every escort:
1. Set a budget and stick to it.
2. Pay attention to what is offered in the escort adverts you see. Being informed is good, and it reduces the risk of wasting either her time or yours.
3. Don't haggle with an escort over her prices or services. But do chat a bit at the beginning of a booking, to agree on boundaries and help each other relax.
4. Search this forum by name for comments and reviews about escorts you are interested in.
5. Treat this as a fun adventure and keep your expectations about her performance (and yours) realistic.
6. Remember that the escort is doing a job, Don't mistake her friendliness for affection. But her friendliness will be genuine if you treat her well.

7. Some guys regret engaging with this industry after having a punt or two. Even though the societal stigma about sex work is less than it used to be. I don't know how common this is, but it happens. So, before your first punt, it's worth thinking about whether you might have this kind of regret.
 
Personally I wish I never started punting. Definitely takes some of the special -ness away from ordinary unpaid sex. My experience, anyway.

If you have the options, better to find a gf, fwb. Or similar, way more exciting and rewarding

being able to just access sex any time you want by paying takes away some of what's special about sex. Just my opinion. But what do I know. I'm just a dirty old Bugger who runs around town getting Asian women to lick me arsehole.
 
Im on the younger side aswell (25) i started about 2 years ago, when first getting into it im ok in admitting I was a little addicted, it seemed too good to be true "you're saying i can basically window shop, pick a girl and fuck them whenever I want" I went pretty crazy for the first few months until I had a terrible experience, It was only around then I found out about online forums (adultforums at the time) and realizing it really wasnt as good as it seemed, I got extremely lucky for the first few months in picking girls that had decent reviews but its very easy to have a bad time without doing proper research first. Since then whenever I feel like a punt I wait until im absolutely sure shes the one I want to see even if it means waiting weeks for schedules to line up. Which in tern slowed me down and saved ALOT of money. I feel like thats a good way to get into it just be overly cautious that way you won't be heading out every week and it also means the times you do are amazing.
 
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I started off young also bro, maybe 21-22? My advice is never tell anyone ever. Don't even mention it in passing. Also for me, i use the service for things my partner wouldn't physically do for me? Like rimming, or swallowing my load? or even COF. But having a escort as a partner/companion wouldnt suit me.

Wait till Robots replace their jobs lmao, alot of sex workers will be out of a job. AI already doing that with boomers and onlyfans
 
The most important thing- that some of the punters here regularly forget:

The working girls are all actual women with lives, dreams, interests, families and personalities, they're not just dolls you can chuck a couple bucks in for sex.
 
I'm not advocating in either direction as it isn't my place to make life decisions for anyone else.

As far as relationships, punting and being in a relationship are two very different things.
My wife knows everything about me (well not everything), has seen me at my best and worst, likewise me with her.
It is a bond that transcends the physical.
The lady that I regularly punt with is incredible, knows a lot about my life (I know a little about hers when she shares) and we get on really well.
But neither of us have seen the downside of the other person and still stuck around despite.

On the whole however punting has helped my life a little.
Brought my confidence back, etc.
But that is because the lady that you are punting with is specifically there to make you feel good about yourself (that's what you are actually paying for) ... at least anyone that is good at her job.

I have a budget, and also treat having a punt like a little treat for my soul.
It is all very wonderful but it is only a thing while you are in the room together, after that it is separate ways.
You really need to be emotionally adult enough to accept the situation for what it is.
The escort isn't your friend, although she will be genuinely friendly if you are a decent human being with her, she isn't going to show up at 9pm on a Thursday night because you've had a shit day ... unless you pay her.
That is the thing you need to keep in your mind.
That isn't to say that she just sees you as a bag of cash, my regular and I get on very well, see each other as actual people and I think that we do genuinely like each other as people.
But we aren't going to be swapping addresses and going to the movies together.

So maybe take an honest look at yourself, and determine exactly what you are hoping to get out of it.
And if you can honestly keep it compartmentalized.
If you are that type of person, you will probably meet one or two people that can broaden your horizons, that you'll genuinely enjoy as people even if only in one strict situation and not beyond.
If you have even the slightest doubt, hold off, as once you've pulled the trigger there is no getting the bullet back.

Also my advice, find a WG who speaks the same language as you do.
Because there is going to be downtime in a booking, and being able to have a conversation without resorting to apps or hand signals is so much better.
And don't haggle, the price is the price, if it is too rich for your blood either find someone else or save up (I'd suggest save up).

For context I am mid 40s if that helps you to pass the above through a filter of being in different stages of life.
Best of luck to you whatever you decide.
 
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Some good advice has been given here.
My two cents on your question.

1. Your father was correct about addiction. I admit that I have been over the limits a few times but managed to get back on track. This is addictive because it causes a lot of pleasure and the brain gets hooked wanting more and more.
2. Correct about setting a budget. The worst thing that can happen is that you find out that you are unable to pay your bills because you have already spent the money in escorts.
3. Never fall in love for any of them. For them, this is a job. They are not there looking for a boyfriend. They can be very friendly, tell you amazing things about your body or personality but they want you to come back to spend more money on them.
4. The industry generally speaking is based in lies. They lie about their ages, nationalities, personal lives, etc. Everything is a fantasy.
5. Going into a more extreme side…be careful…many of these girls maybe connected with gangs, drug dealers, etc. they are not doing anything wrong but the problem is who their connections are. Never disclose your address, phone number, photos, social media, etc
6. Finally, as a suggestion, stick to clubs and brothels and avoid independent operators (there are exceptions). It’s safer, and things are more in control.
 
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Firstly in regards addiction. No one can answer this, the only way is to dip your toe in. Many people can drink, and drink regularly and never become an alcoholic, others are not so fortunate. The alcoholic would not have known they could be an alcoholic until they had a drink. That could be down to physiological or psychological issues. At times I have felt under a punting compulsion. That can be physical, but mostly it is psychological. Recognising it is key, and then having the discipline to do something about it.

Given the stigma still attached to prostitution by mainstream society and to those who avail themselves of their services discussing this around the coffee table is not an option. I have found it helpful to talk with others from our clandestine world. You will find through those discussions that you are not unique and others harbour similar worries, conflicts, experiences etc.

In regards bank accounts and other such stuff, it may depend if you are in a relationship. If you are then your need for discretion will be different than someone that does not have those concerns. Personally I have found it helpful to keep a track of my punting expenses, it has helped with the discipline when I see the frequency increase and costs start to blow out.

As for your punting preferences I would suggest start slowly, experiment a little. I didn't know I liked chilli until I tried it. So I have my personal punting preferences based on my individual taste. Others cannot decide that for you.

Good luck.
 
Not sure Id be concerned about addiction as we are inherently addicted to having sex with woman anyway - by way of just being a red blooded male. However Id be more concerned with starting punting early by loosing skills in attracting and keeping a partner, achieving life goals etc more than getting addicted - as we almost all are anyway. Personally Id suggest leaving this activity to much later in life, when your lust becomes much less of “her “ priority or when you find yourself single at an older age, anyway just my two cents
 
Actually there is a small risk of addiction especially if operating outside of your league… sorry should mention this, you may feel you are able to attract woman well out of scope if you start this sport early. This could derail you a little as far as life goals go, another reason to do this punting later in life
 
I lost my virginity to a SW when I was 17. I was so shy and just wanted to lose it. Wish I could go back in time and give myself some advice so that I didn't have to go to one, but you live and learn.

Many people have said good things and I'm repeating some of it.

1) Stick to a strict budget. You don't want to go maxing out a credit card by doing cash advances.
2) Remember, even though you may come across some that give you a huge ego boost and make you think they're into you....even if they are... just take it as them doing their job, pretending they are. Most likely they're just great at their job.
3) Treat it like a fantasy. Nothing more. You're going to an agency. All these girls are into you. That's the fantasy. But in reality they're not.
4) Walk into the session in fantasy mode. Walk out and click back into normal everyday life mode. It's like going to work. Leave your personal life at home. When you come home, leave your work behind. That might take some conditioning yourself to do but it should then become automatic.

Remember, on the standard dating scene you're still paying for sex. You're just doing it in other ways rather than just handing over cash to them. Probably costs you way more too and you just get the same girl all the time. Not that I think there's anything wrong with committed relationships as they can be great too - I've had them- just saying. So if you're not looking for a seriously relationship, why not just go for the no strings attached stuff if you can afford it?
Just play safe.
 
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My advice would be to never start. The short term positives are pretty fun. But, I think the negatives out weigh the positives over time.

Every time you think about punting, take that money and put it into Sharesies. Pick a growth ETF and don't touch it for 30 years. You'll be a lot happier when you're 50.

I wish someone had given me this advice.
 
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Ha - always good to have a balance. I've got about 50% in diversified ETFs, 35% in individual stocks and about 15% of my portfolio is now in Crypto. I've made a lot more with Tech stocks over the years, but Crypto is looking good for the future.. I'm making enough now to completely pay for my punting each year, but it took a long time to get to that position.
 
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