How to maintain boundaries
I guess the thing that works for me is taking the mindset that Sex is just sex. It's an animal instinct humans have just like any other animals. There's nothing spiritual or meaningful about it unless you make it that way yourself. Animals do this all the time but don't start developing feelings for each other. Does that bull in the paddock just stick with one cow? No, he goes around and humps the lot of them just like the farmer intends him to do. That bull doesn't gain feelings for any one cow. Humans just like to make out they're something special. (being a little tongue-n-cheek here, not meaning to sound like a sexist prick. 
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It's religion I think that has tried to make it this sacred thing. Oh, it's something you should only do with someone you love. I've heard the odd person going on about how sex is like this special connection and it's why you should only ever be in a committed relationship. Nah. Bull shit. Proven by the fact SWers can have sex with hundreds of men and still maintain a professional boundary.
Some of my most beautiful sexual experiences have been with working girls yet I can still walk away afterwards fine with the fact I may never see that woman again.
I'll admit there are times when I'm with a SW who's really good and really intimate and I'll get that strong pull like I have these feelings for her. It just enhances it for me. But once done, I'm back to "Thanks! I really enjoyed myself. You were great!. Maybe I'll book you again some time." And leave, maybe feeling like my minds been blown but not feeling like there's some kind of romantic connection there. You've gotta be realistic.
Anyway, I'm waffling.
Praise God for women that will have sex with you without insisting you have to marry them first! (actually don't praise God. He doesn't get to take the credit for a great service from a SWer)
)It's religion I think that has tried to make it this sacred thing. Oh, it's something you should only do with someone you love. I've heard the odd person going on about how sex is like this special connection and it's why you should only ever be in a committed relationship. Nah. Bull shit. Proven by the fact SWers can have sex with hundreds of men and still maintain a professional boundary.
Some of my most beautiful sexual experiences have been with working girls yet I can still walk away afterwards fine with the fact I may never see that woman again.
I'll admit there are times when I'm with a SW who's really good and really intimate and I'll get that strong pull like I have these feelings for her. It just enhances it for me. But once done, I'm back to "Thanks! I really enjoyed myself. You were great!. Maybe I'll book you again some time." And leave, maybe feeling like my minds been blown but not feeling like there's some kind of romantic connection there. You've gotta be realistic.
Anyway, I'm waffling.
Praise God for women that will have sex with you without insisting you have to marry them first! (actually don't praise God. He doesn't get to take the credit for a great service from a SWer)
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