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Client not paying because it was to much admin...
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Lexbex2323

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Hey everyone,
Just needing a bit of advice or support. I had a booking recently where a client asked for an outcall to Arrowtown. He said he wanted company but never gave a clear time frame. I checked in with him twice while I was there to see if he still wanted me to stay, both times he said yes. I ended up being there for over 8 hours.

He made it sound like money wasn’t an issue and didn’t want to “ruin the mood” by talking details. I charge by the hour, which he knew. He seemed fine with everything until he saw the final amount and acted surprised.

Since then, he’s been saying he’ll pay “today” every day, but still nothing. He tried to give me a Louis Vuitton bracelet as a form of “security,” but it’s obviously worthless without papers and I don’t want it. I just want to be paid.

I turned down other bookings for this client and feel really taken advantage of. He even admitted that he’s done this to other girls before and not paid them.

I know I made the mistake of not getting the payment upfront, but now I’m stuck. Any advice on how to handle this? Or if anyone else has dealt with this guy and wants to compare notes, feel free to message me.

Thanks in advance ❤️
 
You might have to threaten sending a guy around to collect payment from him. You might be able to take him to the civil court. Might be more useful to ask some working girls about it. I guess now you will know to always get the payment up front.
 
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Oh no! That's absolutely horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through this. You should be able to report him to the police? This makes me so angry! We definitely need to pay him a visit and teach him a lesson. I would threaten to out all his personal information to every single SW and platform. Name, phone number, address, description then actually do it. Let's see if he can get another service again.
 
Taking him to court will be embarrassing for him. The media love that sort of thing. That might help.
A bracelet for security? You need to take something more valuable from him. balls.
 
Assuming you are operating above board ie at least declaring some earnings to Ird.

You should issue an invoice for services rendered with 7 day payment terms. If it remains unpaid you have a few options.
Write off the invoice (reduced tax burden)
Go to dispites tribunal would cost $50 and takes time to resolve.
Sell / gift the debt to a collection agency preferably one that attends in person and door knocks the neighbours politly asking if theyre seen xyz and theyre trying to track him down to enforce a debt.
 
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No doubt he's relying on the fact that most SW's are wanting to remain as anon as possible and often dont declare their incomes properly so have very limited options when it comes to recourse. Hopefully theres a way to get him to pay up and no doubt there a ways behind the scenes to warn others to make sure they get paid up front if approached by him.
 
I used to know a guy that used to handled these kinds of situations. He was a bouncer at Calendar girls with long blonde hair if anyone in the industry remembers lol. I believe hes left Christchurch now though. Its situations like these which is why some ladies often hire a male "driver" for security, when they do outcalls.

Maybe you could organize a working girls posse.
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Oh my sweetness! This is heartbreaking, I’m so extremely upset and sorry this happened to you 😭

What a douche- repeating this behaviour as well!
Is there a way to share his details privately amongst other girls so we can hopefully stop him getting future bookings?
Might be the safest option- instead of threats or court ? Just a thought 🫶🏼

I hope you’re okay, this is so upsetting! Message me if you need some more support 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
 
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As harsh as this sounds, this is in my view likely to be the reality of the situation. You should definitely share his details far and wide amongst SW networks and continue to share them regularly to make it as difficult as possible for him to do it again
 
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It's the threat and the intent behind the threat that creates potential criminal liability. Disclosing the info to protect other SWs (without threatening to do it if he doesn't pay up) is a totally different thing.

I know you know, just making sure other readers aren't confused by the statement.
 
This is why some ask for deposits. However many also argue paying a deposit or upfront will result in no booking. Catch 22.
You have my sympathies it’s a potentially embarrassing situation for you. What is alarming is the fact he has admitted doing it previously. Obviously he got away with it.
Those with legal nous- can contact be made with the other providers and a joint claim be made through small claims ? Would NZPC have practical advice ?
TBH I’d live it if you get some payment as wankers like him make it hard for the honest John who pays cash, when present at time of his hour of joy.
 
I mean I don't pay deposits when it comes to escorts, I literally will avoid making bookings if a deposit is required. But still I always expect that I am going to be paying the lady cash up front.
 
I agree. On longer bookings or if the custom is to do so. That’s the only occasions I’ve paid a deposit. It’s like a restaurant. If you have a large party or booking the place out - pay a deposit. If you walk-in or Reserve for 2-4 you pay at the end of the meal.
 
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