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A virgin's struggle

A virgin's struggle
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PhatPineapple

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I'm a 23-year-old virgin guy who's feeling really frustrated about not having kissed anyone yet. I've always been the "nice guy" type, a bit socially awkward, but it seems like the Gen Z girls just aren't into me. It really drives me nuts seeing everyone else around me enjoying their dating and sex lives. I feel kind of embarrassed that the only option I might have for sex is to pay for it. What do you think? Should I just go ahead and see a sex worker?
 
If you arent already, then i would highly suggest working on yourself and figure out why youre not as desireable to your peers. If youre just looking to fuck then get in the gym, as shallow as that is, its true.

Sex workers are a good way to get some experience talking to hot girls and learn some bedroom skills from the professionals. Dont over think it too much, if you really want to do it then go for it. Be careful though its pretty addictive.
 
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Who cares if you pay for it, everyone has their reasons. Mine is just i can’t be fucked with relationships at this current time & whoring is easier to keep my lust in check & balls empty every week, i just roll up clean, don’t be a dickhead & have a fat wallet of 50s & 20s

Don’t feel embarrassed for just wanting to bust a nut, just go and do it, it might just give you the boost you need for sex with non whores.

Just don’t go in expecting anything more, if theres more to be had the girl will reach out, don’t be the one that does & if it happens keep it on the DL & Enjoy
 
Hi there, agree with the above. My advice is also don't worry about being a virigin, bcs there is absolutely nothing wrong. At 23, you have a long road ahead of u. Your time will come when it's right. Unless you're saving it for a special someone, hiring an escort is an option, just make sure you give her a heads up before the booking. More importantly, rather than fixated on being a virigin/inexperienced, focus your frustrations and energy on how to improve yourself, whether its improve your physical appearance (gym, attire), emotional intelligence such as reading self help books(lots free online) or online courses, or just focus on building a career. Think about how to make yourself "attractive" and what kind of women you want to attract. Struggled in my younger days too, but the more you get frustrated, the more you'd show it. Girls/women are sensitive to these "weaknesses" (not really weak, just not the energy they want to see in a man). Don't stop being nice, because that's a gift and no one can take away from you. Good luck buddy!
 
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That was me about 30 years ago. I lost my virginity to an escort in my early 20s, and it took another 5 years before I figured out how to meet girls and have proper relationships. Paying for sex will get you over that hump (pun intended) of not having done it and if you pick the right ones they can teach you some good skills.

Or you could wait for a girl in the same position as you (yes they exist) and learn things together. Have you tried meeting girls through shared hobbies? Or asking friends or workmates to help set you up?

If you do decide to start seeing sex workers be careful because it can be very addictive.
 
Here’s my two cents.

I lost my virginity to a virgin at 31, never kissed a girl before this either so I dove headfirst (Quite literally) into this world.
Don’t regret it one bit, It taught me a lot about myself and gave be a pretty big confidence boost.
Only did it due to social pressures at work, Always felt awkward when co workers talked about sex since I had no experience and just kinda played along.

As others have said, you need to be careful because once you get a taste there’s no going back. I’m kinda lucky since it’s an hour trip to the nearest town to see an escort but if I lived closer I would be seeing someone new all the time haha.
 
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You're still young. If you think losing your virginity might take some of the weight off your shoulders, go for it. Maybe have a session or two of S&M first, then research who you'd have your first FS with.

And try to increase your chances of meeting people and getting involved. If you're very overweight or very thin, do some activity, for your health, that will give you a nice body... a year of dedication and you'll already be able to feel good about yourself. Psychotherapy isn't for crazy people. I wish I had found it sooner in my life; it was only around my 30s, after a trauma, that I sought help. Do it, it can open your mind!
I know it's easier said than done, but try not to mistreat yourself so much, but also don't stay still. Seek psychological help, invest time in yourself, in becoming a more interesting person, in achieving a great body... this will bring you not only women but much more.
 
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If I may offer advice, save your first time with someone whom you cherish and vice versa. But if you do decide to go to a WG for your first time, no need to feel embarrased. Just use it as a learning experience and don't let punting take over your life long term. You'll be alright man, your situation is not unique and while it may feel insurmountable 10 years from now you'll laugh about it. Life is long, and you're just starting out and you have limitless potential. Getting laid is just a tiny fraction of your wonderful existence.
 
Start prioritizing yourself, studying new things, gaining knowledge, overcoming fear (and sometimes prejudice) towards new activities, taking care of your body, skin, etc... strive to be a nice person to those around you. Don't do all this just thinking about sex, but it can probably bring you a lot of sex.

Theater was (and maybe still is) considered a "gay" activity in the past... and it was there that I had my first orgy and had sex with girls I thought would never want anything with me... I still have low self-esteem, I consider myself uninteresting most of the time, but I made peace with my demons and also had much more sex than I imagined I would when I was a teenager, or when I was your age.

You still have time, friend.
But you also need to do your part...
 
I used to be in your position. It's very frustrating watching all your mates hook up and get girlfriends. It can put you in a dark place, self esteem wise and sometimes you begin to wonder if there is something wrong with you or what you're doing....

I paid an escort. It was great. Then I lowered my standards and hooked up with whatever women I could get. My advice. Get an escort and never settle hahaha
 
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My first year I was just blowing my money away haha, Most I did was like 3 times in one week. Everytime I had an excuse to go into town like to go to the dentist I would make a booking with someone.

I’ve settled down now so it’s at least once a month but if I see something that really takes my fancy then I’ll go in sooner.

99% of my bookings I book days in advance and are for 1 hour since I need to actively plan to go in. If I lived within a 15min radius I could guarantee that I would be making spur of the moment booking and that last for 30/45 mins as well.

If money wasn’t an issue I wouldn’t care at all about driving an hour or more away
 
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