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Getting over first time nerves

Getting over first time nerves
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Hey folks,

I'm wanting a little advise on getting over the nerves of seeing a escort for the first time. Any strategies you guys use?

I have a 1 hour massage booked for tomorrow night and I can't help but feel anxious about it. It's been on my mind since booking it, and I'm walking around like a shell of a human being.

I'm excited, don't get me wrong. I close my eyes imaging the booking, and I'm having a great time. But it's also really obvious to everyone that somethings on my mind.

I'm scared i'll be too nervious and I won't get hard. Or I'll cum too quickly and the whole experience will suck.

Any thoughts?
 
Schedule some time for a quiet coffee, ice cream or meal before the punt. This always calms my nerves. Make sure to have access to a toilet before the punt to take a last minute piss or shit.

Humour also helped me get over first time nerves. Paying a woman for sexual services is hilarious. Think of all the normies out there with boring lives doing boring things and with boring conservative attitudes. That isn’t you, you are paying some sexy minx to get naked and give you a massage and handy or if you go to a full service place, sex. You are a certified pimp dawg so be proud of yourself and have a laugh about it.
 
Understand that for many of us, nerves are part of the process. They are a manifestation of excitement, and it would be sad if you weren’t excited.

Make yourself a pre-punt checklist, then work through it - grooming (eyebrows, nasal, downstairs), oral care, money machine, travel time. Then keep yourself busy with other activities, and try not to ruminate.

Give yourself plenty of time to arrive comfortably. Tell her you’re nervous, and let her take care of you. Have fun.
 
Nerves and Excitement feel the same, so just tell yourself its excitement.
Starting with SM is good, zero pressure on you, lay back and enjoy.
Tell her you are a first timer, she wont care if you bust early, late or not all all.
 
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Sound advice from all above. A Key is communication. If she knows it’s your first she’ll expect a quick pop. If your time allows a second, communicate it and she will ( if she’s good) work you up for it. Worst case scenario you have an experience you won’t forget. Life is about learning from experiences.
 
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That is brilliant. Sometimes the opposite is true too, someone who isn’t a normie gives you the nod.

When I was nervously walking to my first ever punt, I passed by a building site. This cool looking Pacific Island guy, built like a brick shithouse, was working there and playing loudly the rap song “I make it rain on those hoes”. He was enthusiastically singing the lyrics and doing the actions of spraying cash around and gave me a huge smile. I burst out laughing.

Chances are him doing this was complete coincidence because it was still five mins walk until my escort’s apartment and he had no idea where I was going. But It still felt like one pimp dawg recognised another.
 
Whatever happens it will likely be memorable, good or bad or otherwise.

Back in 1986 it was a spur of the moment after a night out. Sap rising with just enough alcohol to lose my inhibition.

Then, it was an adrenaline rush. The ubiquitous massage parlour being an open doorway with minimal signage. A single light or dimly lit sign.

Up a staircase that tripped a buzzer that announced your arrival. A press on an intercom.

"What can we do for you tonight love?" It was still illegal. You just said you wanted a massage, extras were negotiated in the room. They were probably just screening you to make sure you weren't police or blind drunk or abusive.

The rest as they say, is history ...
 
I was super nervous the first few times I punted, however I found that once we got down to business the nervs mostly melted away. With more experience I've become far less nervous before a punt although I still feel it a little bit... I'm sure it's the nervs that make me feel like I need to piss before the session starts.
So my advice to the OP would be 1) trust that you'll feel more comfortable once you're there doing it; 2) don't worry if you cum early or not at all, it really doesn't matter and I've found it often isn't an indicator for how good/bad the punt is; 3) hydrate (and take a piss if needed) before hand; 4) goes without saying but make sure you have a shower and brush your teeth, cleanliness is bedroom godliness.
 
A few months back, I found myself in a similar situation. It's completely normal to feel anxious, but I want to reassure you that everything will be alright. As the booking begins, you'll notice those nerves start to fade, replaced by a wave of excitement that will carry you through. Embrace the joy of the experience and enjoy every moment.
 
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Same. And when I stop feeling that pre-punt excitement, it’s an indicator for me that I must take a break from punting until it comes back.
Without the excitement, it feels just like going through the motions and I reckon it’s money wasted (for me anyways), and I’d rather masturbate instead LOL
 
I didn't get a wink of sleep the night before my first time. I'd arranged to go shopping for naughty clothes with her, so there was plenty of time to get to know the angel I'd booked before the clothes came off, or in her case, went on.

Your provider has lots of experience of meeting new people and knows how to make it easier for you, though they will be nervous meeting someone new as well. The shower will give you a little alone time to calm down after the first meet. Just concentrate on some listening in your conversation and it'll come right before you know it.
 
Yep, I'm an old hand too and I still get nerves for about half an hour before I turn up there. It never seems to get any easier unless it's a girl I've seen before. :rolleyes:
But the nerves disappear once the clothes come off. Especially if the girls is welcoming.
You'll wonder why you worried so much!
They could very well be as nervous as you are, wondering what you're gonna be like.
So if you're nice, friendly and respectful you should hopefully get a good response. If the girl knows her job she'll be doing her best to make you feel comfortable right away with flirtation and playful banter.
YOu don't have to worry about getting hard straight away. Get in there and do some groping, kissing or dining, or whatever. That will soon get you hard. By the time you're going for entry, you should hopefully be comfortable with the girl.
And they're not going to be pissed if you can't stay hard or don't cum. I'm sure they'll be happy to give you a blow job or hand job to get you there.
 
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