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Have I ruined my idea of a wife? Please help experienced older punters

Have I ruined my idea of a wife? Please help experienced older punters
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deepthought

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Hi.. I've been pondering a deep question last couple weeks dyeing a trip to Japan with my girl friend who I've been with for a couple years now, for Co text she's the ideal wife material.. Expect the level of her sexual energy.. Mine obviously exceeds her since I'm on this forum and I'm a horny dog.
For some brief context I've punted on occasion while I was single for about 6 years after my last relationship went all crazy with a mental patina girl. Then I met this amazing caring sweet Japanese girl who is ready to have a family and all. After daring her for a year or so I came across a large sum of money after selling one of my investment properties and couldn't help my self but endjkge in some SQ fun.. After some ctwwah wild sex I feel like I broke my burger to get married as I feel I need to marry myself a girl who wants sex as much as I do but I realise this might come at the cost of her not having qualities that this girl had which are more wife orientated like loyal and caring and just chill af.
Any advice from punters who came across this?
Is it impossible to find a girl who has wify qualities but also all the sex energy and urges that match mine?
Or have I realises the reason why so many have wife's and then lovers?
This has really been playing up and stressing me out? Am I just too fkn horny and I should chill out or should I be seeing someone who can match my energy? Or is it best to settle down with a girl who's wify material and try discuss with her to expose the sexuality more? Or just continue with the owrsuite of making more money thru business I order to get away on punting trips and keep going deeper the rabbit hole of crazy wild sex?
 
I have had this dilemma too. Sadly a lot of the girls I dated that were extremely sexual were also batshit crazy and disloyal.

I ended up happy with a woman who is not as sexual as me but is very caring and loyal. I do enjoy sex with her. However, I would describe the sex as more akin to a regular healthy meal - nourishing and keeps me going - but I still feel like going out occasionally for a sugar hit dessert. I see escorts for the sugar hit dessert.

Be aware too, even if you married the hottest sexed up perfect woman, your male brain/balls will still want to fuck others.
 
@deepthought

Is your girl japanese? If so, culturally the Japanese perspective on marriage is quite different. In Japan, it is pretty much expected that the husband will find his sex outside of the house. Stories are rife about Japanese sweethearts turning off the tap completely after marriage. That said, it's not necessarily the case. She might be different. Especially if she is with a foreign guy. Maybe she wants something else.

That said, don't expect the sex frequency to do anything but decrease as time goes on. This is inevitable.

It's much harder in my experience to find quality partner material. Marriage and kids are a tough and long slog. Having gone through it, honestly, sexual chemistry really isn't that important for marriage. Personal compatibility, selflessness, solid work ethic, a bright outlook on life, and moral/value alignment is.

If you have a great wife at home, and have the time/money/moral freedom to pursue your sexual interests outside of the house, you pretty much get your cake and can eat it too... if that's an option, it's not one to ignore.
 
If you are marrying with the expectations of getting endless sex you are going to be bitterly disappointed. Eventually she will choke it off. You will recieve regular rejections to the point you will give up for fear of further rejection. Women use it as a form of control just to remind you who calls the shots. The other thing is after a while you will want a bit of variety, a bit of stray. Say your lady has small tits you will yearn for biggie's etc. Or the young cock teaser at work catches your eye.
 
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This is a difficult one, woman’s hormones have quite a significant impact on libido, along with things that impact the autonomic systems. Although I advocate for transparency in relationships (agreement to see SW or open relo etc) I am aware that this is not always something everyone is ok with. As long as you look after her emotionally, financially, socially etc then as above you can still seek the sexual gratification outside not necessarily variety.

My god you say this all the time “women use it as a form of control”, this is not the case for all women so please don’t generalise. That’s like me saying all men use coercion and violence (economic, psychological etc) as a form of control, which is not the case.
 
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Hi Lara, Clearly, this is the experience of long-term relationships for some men I've talked to. It can clearly be quite traumatic, so it should be acknowledged. Neither should it be generalised. In other cases (I'm guessing the majority) there is a slow decline in interest that has nothing to do with "control".

With the disclaimer that any Forum post should be taken with a grain of salt, I would suggest that good long-term relationships are built on much more than just sex. If sex is the only common interest, the relationship is unlikely to last.
 
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The thing is a man needs to have sex right. If it is being denied by his wife he will find another outlet. The scenario I outlined about control which can also be punishment and manipulation is very common. More common than you may think. Its almost a certainty the sex will be choked off. Men especially young ones marrying thinking availability of sex is secure only to get a hell of a shock and are left bewildered. Man puts his heart and soul into her a gets a kick in the guts in return. Lara would have us believe it's hormones and the old autonomic systems. As well as the control women don't seem.to respect their husband's enough to take care of their sexual needs. Hormones and autonomic problems disappear rapidly if she moves onto some other poor unsuspecting man. It's pushing shit uphill talking to women on this subject they don't and never will understand men.
 
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I am the one who lost interest in sex in my long term (30 years) relationship. I stopped initiating anything years ago and she has never said anything about it.

Now for the last couple of years I have found a new energy visting a variety of SW's. I'm not even sure that she would be overly upset if she was aware that my regular "massages" are much more than that...but I'm not brave enough to test that.
 
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She is Japanese interesting you say that I did know wboitbth culture but she had been living in the East West for about a decade so as you say might wants something else.
Reading these comments makes me see a bit more clearer that it's more important to have a solid wife who is caring loving and can keen a good home, reflecting on the girls I l would day were more sex adventurous and wild - I'm struggling to picture any of them as good wife material.apprexkahe the advice.
 
What other punters said about wife vs post marriage sex availibility vs men seeking variety are all so true. This dynamics also extend to long time girlfriends and partners too, it's inevitable.

I also somewhat understand the female prespectives because again they are not hard-wired like men to seek sex all the time, things like work, house chores and family commitments will stress women out and make them "I am tired, I don't feel like it tonight". Whereas most men will not say no to a BJ in almost any circumstances :ROFLMAO:

@deepthought you seems to be in a good position to go the "why not both?" route so may be just need some good planning to make it works. The exact reason why there is a stat about almost 90% of punters are married men, all the best mate!
 
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