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How do you get your head in the game?

How do you get your head in the game?
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Dee

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I'm the kind of person with a brain that doesn't just shut up and enter enjoyment mode (or any other mode for that matter), and I find these distracting thoughts about nothing tend to cause me issues during bookings (as well as at other times).
I know that I can't be the only person with this kind of issue.

I'm wondering if others have legit strategies that work with regards to shedding all the random thoughts leading up to and during a booking?
 
... Sorry, I'm really struggling to understand what you mean.

Do you mean performance anxiety? Or are you constantly distracted by sensations you felt and such, distracted from being aroused and couldn't reach climax?

I.e

"oh, this boob is softer than I imagined"

"Should I penetrate with horizontal figure 8 pattern? or piston back and forth?"

"Is the WG moaning an act?"

Thoughts like these?
 
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Hard to really explain.
But yes, to both of these.

Not so much thoughts of is is fake, or these boobies are not what I expected.
Literally empty thoughts, that aren't really about anything, aren't even formed enough to really have a 'subject'.
But most certainly can distract from being aroused, or staying aroused (more the latter than former).

Performance anxiety, also yes, although I have valid reasons for those anxieties.

Hopefully that vaguely clarifies things.

As I say not expecting anyone to come up with a solution, I'm just wondering if others who have similar situations have techniques that they have successfully used.
 
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Maybe try distracting yourself with your own fantasy instead?

Maybe you're seeing a long distance girlfriend, an getting on with an old classmate you had a crush on.

Or even imagine you're a landlord taking advantage of a poor girl who can't pay her rent if that's what you're into.

Think about what aroused you enough to make the booking, and see if you can have that play out or something.

If necessary, try talking to the WG and see if roleplay can be done.

After all, despite the whole "your second head think for itself" myth, the reality is, your real head is very much in control and ultimately decides if you're going to enjoy it.
 
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No need to apologise, and no not sick of hearing it.
Funny you say that, as more than one person has suggessted that I may have some neuro divergent condition.
They, and you, may be right.
I come from a time when that wasn't a thing, as in kids weren't routinely tested and diagnosed with things at anything like the rate they are now.
Getting tested for it is beyond my means, sadly.
But a genuine thanks for the insight. :)
 
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It could be interesting to do a
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(SNAP-IV). A GP would pre-screen before referral. Speaking of GPs, from February, some of them will be able to diagnose where previously you'd need to see a psychiatrist. If you do the questionnaire, it's best to do the first page before you read the second page at all.
 
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My problem is sometimes I spend so much time doing DATY or rimming an amazing butt... I find out I only have 15 minutes left and then I'm so worried about running out of time I can't finish. :ROFLMAO:

The curse of being a buttman.
 
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No I can very much stay focussed on a lot of things, even though a million different thoughts are constantly roaming around my skull sponge.
It is unfortunately only a real problem to me, when intrusive thoughts (maybe non-thoughts when they don't take a particular form) get in the way of certain activities that really require a more focussed cone of thought.
Sex/punting clearly being one of those because the more focussed you are on sexy time it sort of just self-reinforces.
But not just that activity, I a relatively smart guy, but getting through my degree (far too long ago) was a bit of a struggle because reading and retaining important information is a bit difficult when your brain poses a 100 other thoughts and ideas.

Electric shock threapy.
I'm pretty sure that they don't do that any longer ... pity, would at least kickstart my heart. lol
 
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That's very interesting information, thank you.
I was unaware that some GPs will be able to do more than offer a simpathetic ear with regards to neuro-divergence.
I should really have a chat with my GP next time I am in, to lay the ground work.
Genuinely appreciate the info.

I do wonder if there might be a more adult focussed version of the SNAP-IV that you liked to.
Some of the questions aren't really applicable to a man in his mid 40s.
Although I have to be honest, I did recognise myself in some of them.
 
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