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Punting depression

Punting depression
VictorStone

VictorStone

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Hi folks

I've been puntering for the last couple of years and I've noticed that it may be a bit easy for myself to get attached to specific type of WG.

The first one is good ole bat shit crazy girl. There is a blonde escort that I highly talk about as the gold standard. The session felt very raw and real. The sex was soo hot and heavy I had to take a shower mid session because I was sweating profusely. In the heat of the moment I said "I love your coochie" after a few minutes I said "I love you" and quickly apologised. I don't know why I said that I think the physical and emotional illusion of the session just forced me to say this. I've seen this lady for a bit and now she's gone overseas I feel devastated and have taken a break from punting just to centre myself.

The second girl is the nice decent chilled girl, that used to undress me gently and kiss me soo passionately it felt soo raw and engaging. When I would see her my jaw would drop, she was the hottest girl I had ever seen. I became her regular and her boss knew me so well would occasionally chat while she was getting ready. She also went away overseas. I remember she tried to see me one last time on a Friday but I had urgent work commitments.

I regret not seeing her one last time. She is the first escort I plowed her so hard her period came early and she stopped working for the day.

Anyways both girls are gone. I just can't help feeling empty. I got mad respect for escorts being able to do this job day in and day out and not having any attachment is a skill.

When you find a WG with the smarts, personality and you just click it's very addictive. I've noticed the WG that get me are the ones that are soo relaxed and allow their feminine side out. They feel safe around me and I never try to do anything off putting or stupid.

How do y'all deal with the mixed feelings that can develop with punting. To me sex is just sex but when emotions develop it becomes a whole different ball game that's forcing me to stop for a while.
 
You have to remember its just fantasy and its not real. Some of them are quite good at acting and making you feel like its real when it's not. One way you can avoid emotions is by not seeing girls more than once and not having regulars lol. Sounds like you are craving the emotional and romantic connection that sex workers cant genuinely provide, so maybe you should give conventional dating a try.
 
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Put more effort into this relationship. Enjoy sex and connection with the missus. Do different activities (both sexual and non sexual) together to build further connection. Treat punting as an occasional extra curricular activity rather than a main focus of your life.

All this will help you avoid falling in too deep feelings wise with escorts.
 
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At least you have the mental capacity to acknowledge this could be an issues compares to some other lost souls that are already too far gone into the rabbit hole.

Agree with others try not to stick to just one, I don't do repeats for this reason. Also try to have other hobbies/friend networks that grounds you. At least you are dating someone so should be able to fill any emtional need via that. Proper relationship is hard work sometime though hence I am taking a break from that also. All the best mate!
 
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You don’t have to disclose but I think the more closer you are in age or have an age gap were you reasonable could have a relationship the more likely you are to start visualising an actual relationship. For me its never been a problem recently because in what world are these young girls going to be with someone who could be their grandpa.

If you also haven’t had a family I assume it would also be harder because punting then becomes your defacto relationship. If you’re in a relationship then try to make it work. Having kids and a marriage shouldn’t be seen as a hell to avoid at all costs. It was a memorable thing for me until it wasn’t. Punting for me was a by product of the divorce but do I regret getting married, not at all. Long story short try to build real relationships, friends, girlfriends or family it keeps you busy.

The main thing to remember is that’s it’s not real. Threads like this have been done a few times here and all have sensible insights. Remember she isn’t yours she’s just yours for the hour.
 
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