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Punting depression

Punting depression
Jowero said:
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Just don’t get too emotionally attached to them and remember they are just providing a service for your mental wellbeing, but that you’re paying them to 😂.
Then you’ll need a good punt to get over any attachments you might form with the psychiatrists, circle of life my friend 🤣
 
Jowero said:
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Might be best to take a break from punting and focus on the girlfriend relationship.

Getting some feelings for escorts whose company we enjoy is common and understandable. And I too prefer to stick with regulars rather than never seeing any more than once. But past adventures that were enjoyed ought to linger as good memories rather than leave us feeling wistful.

All the best to you mate.
 
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Polyamoury provides a great framework!

Within the polyam community is the term "the relationship escalator." It's used to describe a situation where a relationship is progressing through levels of commitment out of social tradition rather than actual interest in getting more serious. Learning to put that down was pretty eye-opening - it gave each relationship room to settle into their own ******* happy places. I know several people who have kept play-only partnerships going for several years, and many love each other within that dynamic. Its just that neither feels the need to put a ring on it.

Sometimes I feel like this world is similar - people connect, often very meaningfully. But that doesn't mean the relationship would suit being more than what it already is. It's somewhat bitter-sweet, but also kind of lovely. It's saying "the world is a better place for having you in it, and that is enough."
 
I sometimes like to imagine what it would be like to have a SW fall for me and actually not just be putting on an act because I'm paying her. But it's only a silly flight of fancy and not something I'd ever believe could happen or for that matter really want to happen. Just the other day, I had a SW I hadn't seen for over a month tell me she missed me. She seemed sincere. I missed her too. But even if she really does miss you and really does like you, doesn't mean she's in love with you or wants a relationship with you.

You gotta think of all the complications that would come from it. Especially if the SWer is a lot younger than you, which my favourite SWs are. Just think of how it could never work out.

What if you're in a relationship already. You gotta end it. Maybe dump your girlfriend or separate from your wife. There's a lot of complications involved in that especially if you have shared assets and kids.
Are you gonna want to introduce her to your kids? A woman that may be even younger than your kids? :LOL:
What if she wants to have a family? Hey, I've had the snip, no way am I having any more kids and wouldn't want anymore.
How self-conscious would you be going out with someone young enough to be your daughter. Introducing her to family and friends?
What if you keep running into her former clients? You'd have to move to another town.
This woman is used to having casual sex with a lot of men. Can she really be trusted?
Will your punting days be over? She'll know you're a punter. Will she expect you to stop punting? Maybe she won't trust you, especially if you were her client while in a relationship.
Is she a gold digger? Taking advantage of the fact you have plenty of disposable income to spend on SWers?
This woman must have a high sex drive to be in the business. What if you dont? Like me. Most nights I just wanna sleep. I've been with enough women who wanted sex every bloody night and moaned and groaned thinking I didn't desire them anymore because we weren't doing it more than once a week and they always had to instigate.
And remember, monogamy can get monotonous. How long before your favourite SW turned GF is on longer your favourite SW and you want a new one?

Yeah, just think of all the negative stuff like that. Maybe that will quickly remove any desires to hook up permanently with your favourite SW. :LOL:
Don't get into the situation Daok got into! :giggle:
 
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Jowero said:
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Fun in the bedroom but later on, when the sex is over...! One's hard enough as it is! Those Mormon polygamists must be masochists!

When I was a teenager, watching Happy Days and the Fonz talked about dating the Hooper Triplets. I used to think how cool would that be? Now when I think about it, I couldn't think of anything worse. Three women, all looking the same with similar personalities. That's three versions of the same woman you have to keep happy!
Hell no! 😱
 
Jowero said:
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There was one of those shockumentaries from way back where they showed an African tribe where the groom's friends all had to have sex with the bride before they got married and come out with a feather with blood on it to prove she was a virgin. It had me thinking that if I was living in that tribe I'd be making an effort to be every guy's best mate.

Another King who had multiple wives was King Solomon according to the Bible. Supposedly he had 700! How can a man be considered wise if he insists on having that many wives! Even one might be considered too many! (The bastard also had 300 sex slaves but we won't go there. :mad:)

(BTW, I'd say it would be just as foolish for a woman to have multiple husbands! :p )
 
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Jowero said:
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Stick to the dating and you’ll be in a far better head space !

Visited a lady a few years ago who always referred to herself as a classy hooker . She was all that and more, and certainly a smart lady who used the term to define herself, her service and her boundaries, should the client start to read more into the relationship being that other than fulfilling the fantasy and it being totally transactional. She also had many men hooked on her for many reasons as well ! A total standout .
 
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60sGuy said:
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Well said. If the chemistry is right it can feel that, for the hour that you paid for, she's your girlfriend. And that's great. But it's important to understand that you are paying for that experience, and that it is just for an hour at a time.

That reality is, perhaps, more obvious for those of us who are older. Shacking up with someone decades younger would feel ridiculous to me. But I can enjoy being with a girl for one hour periods and the rest of the time think of her as a good friend for whom I wish a successful life. It's not a problem to have a friend. It's a problem to think you could ever own that friend.
 
Jowero said:
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I definitely felt a bit sad when one of my regulars abruptly left the industry recently. However, the nature of sex work means the women involved often only do it for a limited time, before going onto something else.

But the amazing flip side of this is there are always new great women joining the sex industry whom can become new regulars who create amazing memories until they likewise move on. The constant flux is great because it means as punters we can still fuck cute 20 year old babes no matter how old we get.

They had a song about it in the Lion King - “The circle of pussy”.
 
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throwing the lion king GIF
 
Thank you all for sharing your stories. This was definitely an interesting read! Even though i have just started this punting thing, I have realised I tend to go back to the same person that I get on with. For familiarity or to build more emotional connections, or simply because im slow to warm up. It runs its risks of getting myself in too deep.. I think id get really depressed too if my regulars ignore me or suddenly move away, with no closure. Having said that, I am also kinda glad that I have had met her/them at this time, and what makes each interaction unique and memorable is that there is an end to it all. A bell rings. An alarm sounds. She gets up and gestures you to the shower. A beautiful end to an escape from reality, an end to a fantasy far more captivating and magical than the daily grind. As I step outside the door, I am already thinking about the next time, if there is a next time. I'm super grateful for all the lovely ladies and their services! Happy punting and good luck in finding your next her
 
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