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HopeThisHelps

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These are my top handy tips for punters!

#1: I take notes of who was kind and respectful or not, who tipped or not, who was unusually difficult, or who tried to push boundaries and get more services than what they paid for. And then I put you on a black list and never see you again. If you are particularly bad I send your number out to forums for other sex workers to put on their black list. Reviews go both ways and the industry is saturated with customers.

#2: Stop assuming every provider lays around waiting for you to message. Screening / scheduling / admin / getting ready all takes time just like in any other profession. Many are only doing this to fund our further studies and business endeavours.

#3: Stop thinking that reviews tell an entire experience. Most are either embellishing or punishing with only one side presented. What I may feel comfortable offering to one client vs another is absolutely different based on hygiene alone. If you are rude/ disrespectful / or just disgusting I will not give you a good service.

#4: Before you go writing reviews bagging a ladies appearance. Give yourself a hard reality check. You are paying her for sex because obviously no one / not many people wants to have sex with you for free. Look at yourself in the mirror. Give yourself an evaluation similar to what you give the ladies and then really think to yourself if you are really that much above her.

#5: Professional photos - for sure I could do them and then instantly charge more for that mirage. If you want to pay more for photoshopped photo girl then, again - that is entirely each to their own. I prefer to keep my overheads as low as possible so that I can charge a better rate for a good service.

#6: You are not going to get the best service if you don’t take the time to get the lady ready for penetration. We are actors - but unlike fake crying, you can’t exactly “fake make yourself horny” if you will lol

#7: You get the time you pay for. It’s not my fault if you choose to talk for half of the time you have paid for. Similarily I will not text with you for free or send you photos leading up to our booking time, why would I? Offer compensation

#8: Price does have something to do with quantity. People will and do pay more for less sexual exposure. If you think it’s cool that some providers will take 3+ clients a day then enjoy, it is absolutely each to their own. But no one is paying me enough to increase my risk of cervical cancer. Higher prices for a low volume provider also generally means better service, as the lady has time to rest / better prepare / and have more energy to give you. A constant stream of clients is exhausting, and I found when I was higher volume it was very hard to give a service to the standard that I am capable of.

#9: Not every provider has a social media because many value discretion in the same way that you do for the same reasons that you do. Also why would I let you see my life or ludes/nudes for free.

#10: Generosity, politeness, consideration, and REALITY CHECKING yourself goes a long way.

#11: Put the god damn toilet seat down, put on deodorant, brush your damn teeth

#12: If you conduct yourself against what any of this post warns about. You are pathetic and we view you as such.



Hope This Helps!!!
 
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HopeThisHelps said:
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Great post pretty much clarified everything I already thought.

Only thing about the paying and looks thing I don't agree with some really good looking guys are struggling to get sex and girlfriends in the western world due to feminism and girls not needing men due to the nations wealth being able to rely on govt support. Average and above average girls are only sleeping with and dating the top 10% of male in the western world (over 6ft 2 and slim under 50 with a decent net worth)

Its funny here girls and people tell me Im handsome all the time and Im 5 ft 11 under 40 but I still cant get a girlfriend Im attracted to. But yet when I go to Asia and Im considered tall there and from a wealthy part of the world Im instantly a high valued male and cant get them off me.

Cheers
 
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Yes I hear you!! But it’s not due to feminism. It’s due to misogyny

It’s my opinion that dating / relationships are a waste of time for women in this day and age

I do this instead. And I get paid.

Sociology is my line of expertise and I have a huge passion for societal structures, questioning societal norms, and of course - feminism

This is my reason for posting

Thank you for your opinion
 

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I don’t hate men

I hate misogyny, I hate society

I do not hate men. There are men in my life that I value highly and have a deep love and respect for.

To quote again

“I earn money this way because I can. I don’t actually want it to be an option. I don’t think human connectedness and intimacy was ever supposed to be commodified

I think that much of society is completely detached from their sexuality. As men view sex as a “conquest” or “getting some” when really underneath it all even if subconscious, you are actually craving the full connection with another human being that you are unable to feel because you are not fully connected with yourself.

Sex is about connection and intimacy at its crux. Pleasure is a bonus.”

To others - I received a message from this user stating he is a sociology lecturer

I doubt this based solely off of his misuse of the word misandry, and that I do not believe any good sociologist would engage in punting

If you were in fact telling the truth. I’m appalled but not surprised

I am not one of your students sir as is much a relief to me as it is to you

I am not a student anymore

:)
 
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You edited your comment that once read

“I love women. But I hate misandry. And your posts reek of it. You really must be high”

Which again was a hilarious misuse of the word and shows that you really don’t have an understanding of sociology at all

You are obviously feeling personally victimised in some way by things that I have said. Great opportunity for you to focus inwardly.
 
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Well this is interesting.

While you are entitled to your opinion, I wouldn’t necessarily agree with the delivery of it and that this is not representative of all SWs.

Your criticism is not constructive. It’s fine to denounce behaviour but I don’t believe suggesting people’s personal appearance is why they punt. In fact I find this no different to when I challenge males on the way they talk about females appearances.

To be appalled by someone’s profession (something to which you have said you have studied in) and their choice to punt is quite fucked to put it mildly. I have had great clients who are great at what they do in similar and differing fields to the above. I am sure I am not alone in saying this either.

Also, I just want to ask how #8 fits with with being a feminist? It’s justifying the way you work and charge by suggesting less of other women who choose to work a different way.
 
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Yes correct! This was very aggressive and not meant to be constructive. Think of it more as a rage piece ;)

I have replied to another comment about this where I did admit that particular comment was misguided out of frustration - I am of course only human, dealing with human emotions

Attractiveness is highly subjective. What I personally find attractive usually boils down to personality traits. This comment was made in anger specifically directed at those who harshly judge another’s appearance with no level of self awareness.

I’m not appalled at his profession (he’s not actually a sociology lecturer) it’s a great profession!! I think you missed my point here

I was not suggesting that low volume workers are worth more than high volume workers - and I am deeply sorry if my wording came across that way.

I was meaning in general - if you see 1 client as opposed to 7, MOST people are going to have more mental/physical energy to give

I was not meaning to say that escorts who choose to do high volume work give a bad service. This is not true. There are amazing high volume workers that give a fantastic service consistently.

My take is very strange as a sex worker because I am a sex worker that wishes sex work didn’t exist. It’s not easily palatable and it’s extremely confronting. I’m aware.

I think it’s extremely predatory and wrong that sex work is the highest “unskilled” paying job for women. (You and me both know there is a lot of skill involved to succeed in this insisted)

It attracts young women in droves who think they will be getting “easy money” while not actually understanding the implications of what they will be going through.

Not everyone can handle sex worker and not everyone should do it. Women should be valued enough in society that this type of work should never have become so appealing.

Sex work is genuine and valid work. It is valuable and has a place in this society because people are so out of touch with sexuality, intimacy and even more simply - themselves. Human connectedness and intimacy should never have had to have been commodified, and it never would have been if society was different (better)
 
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Yes working girls say this to me a lot of the time "why are you single I cant believe you are single"
Its funny because they say this and then never want to date me. Well most of them dont want to date me
 
HopeThisHelps said:
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Thank you for walking this back, because your initial point was absolutely alluding to regressive ideas about a woman's value being inversely proportional to the number of men she's been with. And as you've said you're a feminist I'm sure you don't actually believe that.

And no, your statement on volume and energy levels is also not correct. It really depends on the WG in question - plenty of girls are more exhausted by one 3hr booking than they are by three 1hr bookings. Probably because we're all different people with different personalities.

There's a lot in your followup I'd like to pull apart (especially that bit about SW commodifying intimacy) but this isn't the space for it. Instead can I suggest that you might want to take a break and reset your perspective a bit, maybe broaden it by reading some more academic writing on SW. There are multiple schools of feminist thought on the subject and your university course seems to have skipped a few.

And the frustrating parts of this job are only as frustrating as you let them be. Focus your energy on the good clients and let the rest fall away. Ranting in client spaces doesn't achieve a whole lot.
 
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"Mum! The SWers are fighting again!"

On a serious note, I've been punting since 1986 as a 21 year old. I have given up trying to understand why I do it, why women do it, the shame, the guilt, and more recently being reconciled to it.

I don't think sociological models help. Analysis doesn't help. Just ... be nice, respect people, arseholes exist everywhere in life, and try to understand that you won't fully understand yourself or this sector.

So ... having done this for nearly 40 years I think I can safely say the OP (like me) knows everything and nothing about men, SW, SWers, and everything in between.


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