I don't read this post as suggesting the removal of free speech here at all? We know over censorship is one of the reasons AF has completely flopped. This just reads as reminder to think about what we post.
For every joke made at a workers expense (the taste of said jokes is often questionable, but that's a different convo), or every time workers are spoken of in a dehumanizing way, there is gonna be some impressionable reader that takes that attitude at face value. It's a very quick slide into really bad attitudes. If a client doesn't view us as anything more than an object, or that we are inherently beneath him, or that all women are X, Y and Z, that absolutely comes out in how they treat us in the room
Also the phenomenon of clients using "I'm a reviewer and if you don't do what I say I'll leave you a bad review" has existed as long as reviewboards have. This isn't a problem because of SF or AF in particular, those dudes are just wankers. If review sites didn't exist those guys would still be around just using other tactics.
Also I know this site is primarily for clients. It's the boys club and I'm just a visitor in these lands. I just want to clarify that I'm not telling you what to say on here either. Free speech til your hearts content. I'm just pointing out that things said on a busy public forum can and do have real world consequences, usually to the detriment of my community.
Just imagine the dumbest, meanest fella you possibly can. Doesn't understand sarcasm, jokes, tone of language. Now assume that he's probably reading everything on here. Not a fun future booking for my colleagues and I to say the least.
Some have pointed out this post won't change anything. You're probably right, but it was at nice to see this attitude shared publicly. Saying the kind thing or suggesting others choose to do the same is never popular in a public forum like this, so I do appreciate it. It's not even a case of saying the kind thing actually, it's just choosing to not say the really vile thing lmao.
Bad feedback or complaints can be said in a way that's both honest and respectful! There's also no value in making mean remarks about a sex workers appearance under a positive review just because you aren't attracted fo her! I dream of the day where a BBW can be reviewed positively without someone chiming in to say how disgusting they think she is. Ok? Don't book her then babes.
