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Does anyone actually tip?

Does anyone actually tip?
JohnnyPunter said:
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Yeah, if you're paying for an hour and a couple of extras are paid for, they're earning extra money and don't have to give up any more of their time. Doing a little extra thing that's probably not a big deal. Maybe it's a little less pleasant for them? Maybe it's not.
French kissing instead of normal kissing? Might be a bit gross perhaps for them. But it's not gonna be for a full hour because the guy will probably be down low a lot of the time. (or doing it doggy style!)
Taking a shower with you - which really is no big deal because you're gonna be virtually doing the same thing later, without the water and soap. And she gets the added benefit in making sure you're properly clean. (and vice versa!)
Dress ups. So they're putting on a costume? Not taking any extra time, right? Not gonna be unpleasant for them. That sounds like a great deal for them!
Rimming on them? Is that really all that different from eating their pussy? Like one girl said to me she didn't charge for rimming because hey, you're the one that's doing it, not me!

Extras are mainly just adding in a few extra thrills for us guys which we pay for on top of an already potentially high fee.

I would also think that giving them return business is a bonus too especially if you were nice to them.

So yeah, this whole tipping thing just seems so wrong in New Zealand. It's bringing in the European and American way of doing things.

Ah geez. I'm not adverse to throwing in a few extra dollars for top service and I'd feel good about it anyway. Helping them fund their education, travel and other financial goals. Especially if the girl is so lovely and eager to please. (and not a starfish) But it just irks me that it would be a thing they might expect and you might not get the top quality service if you're seen as a guy who doesn't tip.

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I know, right? The girls I've been seeing recently I've been routinely paying 100 bucks for extras. Usually French kissing and showering together. Did a costume and spanking with one last time which was a real buzz, I will admit. But yeah, they're getting an extra 100 bucks and not having to spend any additional time with me. Gotta be better than getting paid the base rate and an additional 20 bucks added. Especially if the girl actually likes you and you treat her well.

Some punters are assholes, so if you're the gentlemen who's thoughtful, kind, respectful, and coming back again and again, that's gotta count for something, surely?
 
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Big D said:
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I don't quite agree with this.

I don't think that just because a punter believes it's an easy service to deliver or adds no more time that the SWer might not find it "unpleasant" or that it should be inexpensive.

Showers? Pretty intimate, and what are the boundaries around that? Costumes? Who pays for those? How comfortable do SWers feel dressing up for weird school girl fantasies? Sounds fairly innocuous but what if the SWer just finds that stuff ... creepy?

Spanking ... again what does "light" mean, or PSE experiences with hair pulling and the like. That could easily go sideways quickly ....

If you feel that paying for extras constitutes a tip in itself that's fine. But that money is definitely earned in my opinion.
 
oopriv76 said:
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Oh god the white knights are back out in force again. Why the fuck would you insinuate I don't see them as human beings? Why don't you take that shit back over to AdultForum? 🙄

I don't know how the industry is doing down in Wellington but up here in Auckland some of the popular ladies are definitely still seeing several clients a day. It's hard to even get a booking with some of the really popular ones.

If there are ladies down there that you see are struggling to get a single booking well then I can definitely see how your $20 tip goes a long way.
 
If I require change they can keep it as a “tip” I wouldn’t tip on good service I would however come back which is better for them isn’t it?
 
Play_It_Again_Sam said:
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Any more intimate than rolling around on a bed naked with her? Any more boundaries? Probably less because you can only do so much in a shower. Limited space and all that.

I think it's an extra because it's likely to be an additional thrill for the punter. Something that the girls know they can charge extra for.

It would be interesting to get a viewpoint of an actual SW on this one though and if it's something they find uncomfortable as opposed to actual sex.


Play_It_Again_Sam said:
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Some seem to enjoy dressing up too. And dressing up is just putting on an outfit. A roleplay is something different again which would require a bit more effort. But it's the punter that generally has to provide the costume unless the girl already has some. Experienced escorts are used to guys kinky fantasies anyway. Most are unlikely to be fazed by donning a school uniform or whatever else they're asked to put on.

Seems to me it's something that provides a bit of an additional thrill to the punter, so thus it's added as an extra. I'm not saying that's wrong to charge for things like that but yeah, if you're paying this sort of money for these things it's gotta surely be better than a 20 dollar tip.

Play_It_Again_Sam said:
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I'm not saying all extras are easy or comfortable for the girl but some do seem to be very easy money.

I frankly don't like seeing some things on their extras lists. Things like hair pulling? That bugs me. Guys who would get off on that I would want to punch out. Rough sex? That bothers me too. I abhor violence towards women. Spanking? Some women tend to enjoy that if it's done in fun and not too hard. (when I did my spanking extra I made it clear I didn't want to hurt her and if I did it too hard to say so). But sure, they have to put a lot of trust in you that you're not going to take it too far. But even if no extras are paid for they still have to deal with guys trying to take liberties they shouldn't.
 
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JohnnyPunter said:
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It's interesting to hear of your experience with this industry . I started escorting in 2000 in brothels. GFE was unheard of back then. When entering sex work we were explicitly told to do massage, blowjob and sex only. Kissing and daty were huge no nos, so much so that girls who provided them were given the bash and considered dirty by other girls. It was a crude self-policing system intended to keep escorts safe from what they considered unsafe activities from becoming the norm. There were a lot less private and international escorts back then which would have made the industry easier to 'police'. There was the occasional renegade escort who quietly provided the taboo services though, and perhaps it was more prevalent in other situations and areas outside of my sphere, but kept discreet I imagine.
 
I second hating the showering together requests. It's really awkward and uncomfortable, not fun at all. I'm short so always getting water in my face. And can't put anything besides plain unscented soap in sensitive areas, enthusiastic customers with body wash cause havoc for me down there.

On the other hand, I'm a huge bath enthusiast, and every time I convince a customer to share a spa bath or large 2 person bath tub with me, it's always an extra fun booking, and get told it's exactly what they didn't know they needed.
 
FWIW I pay by cash and usually only take the exact amount, however if it's someone I've seen before and who I like then I won't worry about breaking any notes and consider the extra $ as a tip.
 
I don't usually tip for good or excellent service but I do tip if they go above and beyond the expected service without asking. For example one time we went 20 mins over the scheduled time and I offered a tip, or another time I was given an item listed as an extra without asking (normally 50 bucks extra, I tipped 20). Basically if I pay for GFE and get good GFE then I don't tip but if I pay for GFE and get GFE + extras or extra time then I do.
 
I never tip because tipping culture is evil. However, with a girl I really like I will happily engage in some extras or pay the going gfe rate. I tend to get extras with SM girls and pay GFE rate with full service chicks.
 
Club 3 on the Shore used to have these large open showers and the GFE included showers together which was great. I used to see a couple of regulars and a lot of the fun and passion would start in the shower and it was a quick scramble to dry off and dive into the bed to continue the fun. Most other places showering together would be a tight squeeze and not a lot of fun....I don't think

I avoid extras only because I just feel that if a girl is charging extra for them they probably don't enjoy them and are doing it just to please me.. However when I am with a girl I often find ones i have a connection with will just encourage things that would be deemed an extra by others and they become girls I will visit repeatedly.

The only extra I would pay for however is greek due to the nature of the act and possible prep that needs to be done for it.......and even that only if the girl tells me she enjoys it.
 
Benman said:
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I think it's true that some might not like the act which is why they charge but then again, they don't have to offer it at all if they don't like doing it. They can just leave it off their extras list and say they don't do that. And many do!
But there is also the case of the extra being something that is in demand. If guys are eager for that service, why not charge extra for it?
For many girls I have found the extras to be really well worth it. But some, I feel less than satisfied. No guarantees I guess.

There's a girl I love to visit who I usually do the shower extra with. She says she loves having someone else wash her. It could very well be she's just saying that because she's giving me the Girlfriend Experience and telling me what she thinks I want to hear. But who knows? And I've also had one girl do a dress up extra and she told me she loves to dress up. Once again, maybe she's just saying that? But maybe she's being genuine. Very hard to know what's an act and what's genuine.
 
WG #356 said:
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I'd completely forgotten about this aspect of it. When I first did shower extras I had the occasional one wanting to avoid her hair and face getting wet as best she could. So it's become a habit now for me to be try to be considerate of this when in the shower with them, especially considering I'm 6 foot 2. But yeah, I can see how it can be an issue.
 
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