I Owned a Brothel for a Decade , Ask Me Whatever the Fuck You Want
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I think in this context it can be easy to conflate lust with 'love', especially if it's been a long time since the client has experienced physical affection, so hormones, brain chemistry and thoughts are racing. Some can confuse us being kind, caring and listening to them as something that it's not, when it's actually simply us being empathetic people who are also good at our jobs.
Sometimes they loose sight of the fact that we spend time with many different men and this is our occupation, because we may be the only woman that spends intimate time with them. Which can cause them to obsess, overthink and create scenarios in their minds that do not exist in reality.
When feelings have become confused with clients in the past, I have suggested we take a little break from bookings and recommend they get out in the world and maybe try some real life dating, or focussing time on hobbies or time with friends etc to help regain some perspective. Ill usually also recommend they see other providers to remind them that its all about fun and variety (unless the behaviour has become obsessive and they are really not adhering to boundaries), in which case they may meet a much more stern and direct version of myself which may be followed by a block in extreme circumstances.
At the end of the day, sex is only a very small part of what we do. The emotional labour and holding space for people part is pretty huge, and an important function. Also in the case of really intense sexual connection which obviously does happen and can be amazing when it does, but in both instances boundaries are vital for both parties so things don't tip over into dangerous territory.
I hope that answered your question.
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