Question for the SM fellas

[Ivy Brooke]

Could one of you gents who get regular SMs enlighten me on something please. If you regularly book in for sensual massages do you eventually find yourself turned on whenever faced with a massage table? Hear me out ok.

I was getting a massage today and it got a bit chilly after the oil, so I got a little self conscious of my lovely masseuse seeing my nips (throwback to that mentos ad from back in the day), and that thought lead onto a 'well at least I'll never have to hide an inconvenient boner, that'd be way worse.' And thus, we arrived at this question.

If a regular SM enjoyer heads into a PG rated massage spot for a good ol' 60min therapeutic massage, do you have to fight demons to not get an erection on the table? The more I've pondered on this, the more I wonder how you couldn't be rocking at least a half, it's basically operant conditioning right? You typically lay down on a massage table (stimuli), and then a hot woman of your choosing comes and gives you a lovely massage with a happy ending (reward).

So please enlighten me, I want to know if my theory is correct for uh... science? (I'm nosey).

Extra credit question:
Has anyone else reflexively gone in for a cute hand hold moment with their massage therapist when they've reached down to massage your palms, or is this a uniquely embarrassing experience I had today? I guess you can take the girl out of the GFE booking...

 

[Pat]

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Not regular when it comes to punting a recent change for me.

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Yes it has been an issue with massage before and even acupuncture.

Massage was a big part of foreplay and the game of tease many moons ago. With many massages turning into more when both participants caved.

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I’m heading away from the happy ending for a bit when it comes to SM for a bit. If it happens it happens. 1) to help seperate massage from sex. 2) also learning how to enjoy just receive which is an issue when want more keeps popping into brain.

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yes but managed to stop and make it a little less obvious. But that hand hold in a sm is as fuck.

 

[Ivy Brooke]

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I knew it!
Thank you for the input I've been curious about this all afternoon.

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From my previous scientific enquiries (being nosey) a lot of the SM ladies are goddess tier attractive, so that sounds like quite the self control challenge you've set for yourself! Mind over matter though, or rather big head over little head in this case haha. Godspeed!

 

[ManBehavingBadly]

I absolutely still get turned on during a standard massage. I often get a hard-on when lying facedown and they massage the upper part of my legs. Some places (maybe the ones that don't want to see an erection) do the legs first and then the back so by the time I turn over it has gone. But if they do legs just before getting me to turn over then there is a hard cock under the towel which I'm 100% sure they notice.

 

[JohnnyPunter]

Well it depends on context. The actual massage table has little to do with it. More the touching and how attractive the person doing it is.

I'm not going to lie, sometimes when I have gone for a therapeutic or phsyio massage and it's an attractive female. I do my best to get turned on so she can see my visible erection...

 

[60sGuy]

Awestruck SM fan here, and I can confirm that my penis is almost always at least half standing up as I approach the SM table with the lady I booked standing naked at the head (no pun intended) of the table.

As for normal therapeutic massage, I've only once gone into a PG massage place. Being an older guy now, getting aroused in this circumstance is unlikely, but it did happen on that occasion in the 1990s. The lady was clothed, the booth was walled off, she didn't seem embarrassed and offered a hj. I will leave it to readers to guess my response, lol. She was really nice about it.

About 10-12 years ago I had physical therapy on my lower back after an injury. No nudity there of course except me from the waist up. But I will admit that the therapist was a young woman, maybe around 30, very attractive, and I was a bit self-conscious. The big head won that battle for the half dozen sessions we had. Pretty sure he realised I found her attractive and she was fine about it.

And I agree with @Pat - in the SM setting, mutual touch - even just hand holding - is hot.

 

[Euripides]

Get a hard on with all massages including therapeutic.
It matters not my cock is so small no one notices .

 

[Ivy Brooke]

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Workers at standard massage establishments must be absolute masters at playing "ignore the boner." I bet my massage lady could tell me some stories if we ever broached the topic hahah.

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Unless your type is 'lovely Thai Grandma,' I can recommend you a great masseuse that'll provide you a safe, boner-risk free environment in Tauranga. She's super sweet, and wouldn't look amiss doing some knitting whilst having a cup of tea, yet somehow has a strength level to be envied by proathletes. The pressure level on my shoulders is unmatched.

Although if that is your type, good for you! I've lurked on some threads around here before, I've seen some things. Live your life to the fullest, as long as you live it far away from my sweet, uncorrupted masseuse. Pervert!

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Honestly you're playing with fire here. You may encounter a spunky lady who doesn't appreciate your... showmanship. Next thing you know, she's 'accidentally' dropped something heavy right down on your at attention soldier! Good luck explaining that one to ACC.

 

[Ivy Brooke]

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Well naturally you declined like the good, God-fearing man that you are. No hankypanky outside of wedlock, that's what we always say around here!

That sounds like a fun, unexpected turn of events though. I imagine it being a surprise must have added to the thrill of the experience a little!

In my experience, if someone obviously finds me attractive in a public or work environment (current job excluded), as long as they're respectful about it then it's a welcome compliment. To be attracted to one another is *******, and to be admired is flattering.

 

[massagefan]

I fix this problem by only going for sensual massages.

 

[Ivy Brooke]

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Yk what? Hell yeah

 

[60sGuy]

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Haha ... well, I was single at the time!

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Not sure how surprised she was, but got the impression she'd made that offer before. Hand signals used, not words. She was cute.

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Absolutely, you get it.

 

[Raydonovan]

I had PG legit massages for years before I started seeing SW's and rarely had to fight a boner. A good legit masage usually has me so relaxed that I am more likely to fall asleep than be aroused. When I went to my first rub'n'tug shop not really knowing how things worked, the masseuse kept bumping her thighs into me and when she climbed up on the table she sat on me, unlike regular PG massage where they climb on to apply more pressure with hands and knees. I felt a definite difference which resulted in a tent pole when I was turned over.

 

[Raydonovan]

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At legit establishments, this seems the most intimate part where the therapist "massages your hand", not necessarily a sexy turn on but just an intimate moment with an action normally reserved for a true loved one. A younger version of me was usually embarrassed at this moment of intimancy.

 

[JohnnyPunter]

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If a woman can't handle seeing something as n@tural as the outline of a man's erection through his clothing... then really she shouldn't be working as a masseuse or physio therapist. Or at least one that takes male clients. But in my experience, judging by their flirtiness some of them seemed to actually appreciated that "showmanship"!

 

[allshewrote]

It’s not about someone being able to handle exposure to an erect penis during a day at the office (which a massage table is for a professional masseuse), it’s about you intentionally trying to exposure them to it.

Edit: forgot to add ew and tag you JP

 

[JohnnyPunter]

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Oh god here we go. Good job ruining your own thread Ivy. I was half joking really. But getting an erection during a massage is perfectly ******* and normal. I have literally had uncontrolled erections during doctors appointments. You make it out like I advocate men whipping their dicks out on the massage table and exposing themselves during a therapeutic massage given by a Nun. Next minute you'll be complaining about teenage boys getting erections in a high school classroom.

Seriously some of you need to check your misandry. It's fucking disgusting. And while you're at it scroll up and have a look at the name of the forum you're posting on.

Well now the fun has been completely ruined in this discussion, I'm out.

 

[Ivy Brooke]

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I imagine most masseuses would understand that this is a normal bodily reaction and just continue on whilst ignoring it, it's probably pretty common. The issue is you said you try and get aroused in the hopes they see it intentionally.

If a lady clicked on to your game and dropped the nearest hardcover book on your unwanted presentation, good for her tbh lmao. She's at work to give regular massages, don't push your sexual fantasies onto her without her consent that's weirdo behaviour.

 

[Ivy Brooke]

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Misandry is when I show my boner to a massage therapist and nobody laughs

Sorry your fun was ruined JohnnyP, at least I'm still having a good time Lighten up bud, it's not that deep.

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That account isn't me lmao. I already have to use a VPN just to use this one, if I have something to say I'm more than happy to put my name to it!

 

[Baron]

Good questions. I feel the need to conduct some field work.. Depends on the masseuse. A PG massage will not normally result in that situation as a therapeutic massage will nearly put me to sleep. When turned over a few lower reach strokes will signal the masseuse’s intentions and trigger a physical response. But TBH if you want a little bit of excitement during a massage steer away from PG or therapeutic massage, it’s not normally provided. Now if only all massage tables had a glory hole so that if you do arise to the situation you’re not crushing yourself? Massage to Upper leg and glutes normally triggers the situation!