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What’s the one bedroom tip everyone should know but nobody talks about?

What’s the one bedroom tip everyone should know but nobody talks about?
Also an attempt to bring this back onto the rails.

If you happen to be with someone who is a little on the kinky side, and they've said it is ok ahead of time, spanking is fun for both parties.
If you are the spanker, cup your hand a little and use the cupped section to make contact, as opposed to the heal of your hand.
I undertand it is slightly less stingy but still delivers the radiating warm feeling ... a plus point, it also makes a really loud satisfying ''SMACK' sound.
Also test the amount of impact that is desired by the spankee before really laying in there with multiple.
Cadence, rhythm, strength, frequency all differ from spankee to spankee, so don't assume that it is a one size fits all type of deal ... also it can be fun to alter all of those to add a little suspense.
Setting some words (safe words) before handfor 'good', ''stop' and 'stop for a momentwhile we talk/I give you some feedback' is vital.
Checking in with the spankee afterwards (aftercare) is also not only a nice thing to do, but vitally important.


And just to ensure that I have covered off the consent thing, do not spank someone who has not given the ok before starting.
It is not a nice surprise to spring on someone.
 
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when you are munching on her taco & getting really into it,
licking all up and down like a mad man, lost in the moment,
shoot a few stray licks down to the ol' brown button & gauge her reaction

if she is not into it she likely will not give any reaction or might freeze up
she might even mention something, but unlikely.
if you are really munching her out like crazy it could be brushed off as a mistake, you just lost track of what was where, no harm no foul, no embarasment .

but if she does like it, she will let you know vocally for sure
then a nice long lickout of the ol cornhole is in order
congratulations, you have found yourself a keeper.
may your relationship be blessed with plenty of butt-play.
 
When eating a girl out, make sure she's warmed up a bit before devouring her like a slice of watermelon 🍉. Take your time, tease a bit. Experiment and gage her response. Be gentle. Girls have different levels of sensitivity down there. What worked for one girl, may not work for the other. If you get a strong reaction with a light touch or 😛 then keep it light. She's probably too senstive. Don't just focus on the clit, teasing the entrance is nice too. Also, a bit of fingering goes a long way 😜

Sharpening up your fingering skills could be a real game changer and good back up skill to have in between. If anyone has any tips on that, please share!

Take your time with kissing as well. It's like forplay. The mouth also needs a warm up. Don't introduce that tongue too soon and definitely don't introduce it first! Start with little kisses and gradually increase the intensity. If you are unsure, just follow her/his lead.
 
Context is the word. What works for a regular partner is different to a one-off.

I love the pillow under the hips thing, you can get right up into the mythical G-Spot.
I'm also a fan of gentle clit-licks while fingering up inside.
 
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Woah what a dramatic over exaggeration to someone daring to suggest consent conversations are a good idea. Who said anything about clip-boards and checklists? Is that what you think consent is about? It's kind of weird that you seem so passionately opposed to it. Whispering in a ladies ear "do you like XYZ" if it's something not on the agreed menu is not pathetic, or over the top, its basic respect.

Generally WGs do a pretty good job re finding out what sort of service is desired and any extras wanted, so that in itself is the consent conversation for the client side of things, but for example Im not going to surprise a lady with a finger in or around the ass without asking if its something she likes and wants first, and honestly if anyone did that to me without asking it would throw me right off my game, and I would not be a happy camper because it is not something I enjoy or want. Receiving a surprise ass fingering might be your buzz but its def not everyones. Again, just an example of the endless activities this could apply too.

I get that you may only want to see posts that deal with the naughty, dirty and exciting sides to sex, but surely we can do better than behaving like neanderthals who don't believe woman should be able to experience communication that helps them to feel safe and comfortable while doing their job, and also covers our own backs should things take a turn. It's fantastic that there seems to be a female presence on this forum, but I guarantee it wont last and they will all vanish like they did from AF if we don't hold ourselves to a higher standard. Im not saying don't discuss the naughty, dirty and exciting stuff, go hard! but this is an important and very obviously misunderstood issue that belongs here in equal measure.
 
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SMH. Why on earth would you risk the lady 'freezing up'...which clearly means she's uncomfortable when you can simply ask if she wants it or not? I would be mortified if I did something that caused a sex partner to feel like that. Thats not fun, not hot and not cool! These ladies already have a hard job, you can choose to make it harder or easier depending on how relaxed and safe they are able to feel with you. If they are having to be 'on guard' incase we spring undiscussed and unwanted stuff on them, how relaxed are they really able to be. Fuck sake!

These attitudes promote the idea that sex is something we do TO woman, not WITH them.
 
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Tease - whether with your tongue, your fingers, the tip of your cock, your lips, a hunger in your eyes or - most importantly if you can start early - with words. Light their imagination - as early as possible in the evening, day, whatever.
Want them and make them want you.
 
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No disrespect, but have you ever spanked someone who’s actually into it?

Obviously, you wouldn’t dare do anything that wasn’t plain vanilla with a sex worker these days without explicit consent, a quote (and possibly a credit check) - because everything’s an extra these days.

However, in the real world, where it’s not beyond the possibility that the girl is actually into you, the last thing a spankee wants is for you to ask permission verbally.

My GF is English, so naturally as kinky a fuck; and considering she’s with a guy three decades older – I kind of guessed this is what she would be into. But there is always a measure of roll play involved. On the first occasion, I just took a punt and flipped her over my lap and just held her there in silence. I could feel her heart pounding, her body rigid. The trick (I found) is to make her feel helpless to the inevitability of what is about to happen to her, to build the an-ti-ci-pa-tion… and strike unexpectedly, interspersed with soft caresses.

Of course, if at any stage she had objected, then I would have stopped immediately, but you can’t ask “do I have your consent to give you a spanking?” Because it’s not the physical feeling of the spanking that’s the turn-on, it's the sensation of being dominated.

Success in the bedroom, from my experience, is being able to sense non-verbal clues, body language, etc that gets rewards – come to think of it – it’s the same shit I use to fuck over my opponents at the poker table.
 
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