What’s the one bedroom tip everyone should know but nobody talks about?
- May 26, 2024
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Clearly you have a vagina, at least be transparent about it. I know the issue of consent is a touchy subject for women. It's especially triggering for WOMYN such as yourself. I was under the impression that this thread was less about sex workers and more about bedroom tips when having sex with women generally. Obviously it is a different issue with sex workers, as Daok rightly points out for starters there may be extra payment for doing things that aren't covered in the base service. So generally you want to have some kind of discussion before hand. But I think you would be shocked at how freaky some sex workers are when it comes to consent... as in specifically asking clients to NOT ask them for consent before doing things. I would also add I have slapped the bums of countless sex workers without consent and I only ever had one respond negatively to it. So it was probably worth it to have 99 good experiences with only 1 bad one. The majority of them actually seemed to like not only having their bums slapped, but also having it done without consent. As for the arse fingering, I'm not suggesting just jamming your finger in there to hurt them, which is an exaggeration on your part. Perhaps you have had first hand experience of that? I was suggesting you can slowly work you hand to that area and gently do some light gentle anal play on the outside and gauge their response, 99% of women will move your hand away or ask you to stop before it goes further. If it is done to a sex worker, they may just let you know that anal play will be extra. Really this is non-verbal communication, and I think all the BEST lovers are skilled in non-verbal communication and reading their partners responses. So no, I don't think its necessary for a man to ask for verbal consent beforehand for everything as long as he is acting in good faith.
Its been my experience that most women appreciate a bit of spontaneity when it comes to romance and sex. Alot of them are going to quickly lose interest in a boring boy that is apprehensive and unconfident, who can't lead and has to ask before doing anything. Many women like men to take control and get turned on by "non-consent". Personally the idea that a women that I was dating is so untrusting of me that they felt the need to have a big conversation around boundries and consent is unromantic and a major turn off for me. Also the idea of having to constantly ask whether they like "XYZ" while in the middle of coitus is also quite unsexy. Of course some things may require discussion, such as anal. And anal is actually probably always better if it is discussed beforehand for multiple reasons. If you cannot see anything rationale in what I have just written then I really don't think there is any point in me trying to explain it any further.
It is my observation that the reason AdultForum died is because the male presence left. Somehow I think the ladies will always go where the customers are.
